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Goodbye March: My Goals for April

2019 is 25% done. Every month feels shorter than the one before it. I don’t know how it’s April already. 2019 is FLYING.

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I did so many things and laughed so many times but, like every month it seems, I also left a few things untouched or unfinished. I didn’t take my permit test but I’ve decided that true New Yorkers don’t drive, I ditched my plan to yoga everyday (read about why here), and I wasn’t perfect about reading my Bible but I read it.

March felt good.

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Every so often I'll get a message from one of y’all asking me about my daily routines and how I get things done. I regret to inform you that I am not the beacon of productivity you’re looking for… at least not at the moment ;) What I will say is that grinding for your goals is a really difficult thing. It’s not cute, it’s 1000% exhausting,

but it is a BLESSING, and one I try really freakin’ hard, day in and day out, to summon my energy for.

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I’m by no means perfect but I do my best, and when I find myself unable to step up I talk to someone I trust. More times than not, what’s holding me back runs deeper than I realize.

I’m setting one goal for April:

At the end of every day I want to feel like a took a step in the right direction.

I’ve got all of these things I’d like to do before I finally go to med school in August. They’re whizzing around in my head but part of the work will be figuring out what I need from the next few months.

So every single day in April I’m going to try to get clearer on my goals , how I'm going to go about doing them, and where the heck I’m going to start.

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There are a lot of changes coming- medical school being the most obvious one. But there are also changes in the works that I’m not quite ready to talk about (and equally excited for). Ah, such is life. I hope your April is the start of something incredible. I hope whatever seed you’ve been sowing shows signs of growth. If you’d like to focus on 1 THING with me I would love for you to share it below; nothing makes me happier than cheering you guys on. Wishing us the both the best “1 THING April”- like Amerie. Get it? All love always xx

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February Five & My Goals for March

Happy On The Move Monday, my people.

It’s March and I’m not sure how we got here. It feels like yesterday I was watching the ball drop, writing down my goals for 2019, and praying for med school acceptances. Now we’re 2 full months into the new year, I’ve largely forgotten about my goals *face palm*, and the Lord has answered my med school prayers.

While I’m tempted to jump straight into the intentions I’m setting for this new month, I wanted to rapid-fire share some of my favorite features of the one behind me:

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(1) Short(er) hair

At the beginning of the month I went in for a quick little trim at a hair studio I’d never been to. It ended in disaster *insert dramatic effect* and the only way to fix it was to get it CHOPPED. Hair is no big deal (& I know that it‘ll grow back) but after spending weeks feeling like a bald biscuit, I’m digging the shorter look. Lesson learned? Even accidents can have happy endings.

(2) #GRLSWKND

I think I’ll dub the month “Friendship February”. For the first time in a long time (with my head finally out from under the #premed cloud) I spent every weekend socializing and living my best life. It certainly hurt my bank account, but it did wonders for my spirit. I didn’t realize how much I’d missed being 7 and having sleepovers, so we made it our mission to bring them back.

Evening tequila => Morning face masks => Afternoon shopping.

Evening tequila => Morning face masks => Afternoon shopping.

(3) Walking sans Headphones

No shade here because I love my AirPods, but sometimes a girl just needs to listen to the sound of her heart, breath, and ‘hood. Know what I’m sayin?

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(4) My “It’s not really winter, but it’s also not warm” boots

I’m no fashion blogger so forgive me if these are out of season. Whenever it’s been cold and dry I’ve turned to a pair of boots that sat in my closet untouched for months. Now the price-point on these babies is STEEP (#gifted) but the leather’s finally broken in and ba da pa pa pa, I’M LOVING IT. I don’t expect you to go buy a new pair of boots, but I would encourage you to take a look into your closet and wear something you haven’t worn yet. Can’t find anything? Look harder. We’re all guilty as charged.

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(5) Hoops & Acrylics

I touched on lip gloss & hoop earrings very briefly in my last post but February has seen a full-force return of the things that make me feel most connected to who I am and where I come from. “Next time someone tells Bronx girls to take off their hoops, they can just say they’re dressing like a Congresswoman… and a future surgeon. Acrylics not sold separately.

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Now I’ve got a million and one ideas about how I’d like March to look so it’d be fake of me to suggest that my list was anything short of 15 bullet-pointed items that I’ve sub-divided into targeted To-Dos and broader #Goals.

I’m a little crazy. I know.

That’s why on my crazy list of things to do I’ve marked 3 goals as highest-priority and I thought it’d be helpful for me to share those.

(1) Good for the Mind: Yoga. Every damn day.

Your girl’s been trying to get into meditation for what feels like twenty lifetimes and I think I’ve finally figured it out. I need something a little more physical! This month I’m challenging myself to 28 consecutive days of yoga. Woosah.

(2) Good for the Body: Plants & Sobriety.

This one is kind of two-fold. The first fold: my body is craving leafy greens and coming off of one too many consecutive tequila weekends. And the second: NYC nightlife is TOUGH on the funds $$$. So for the same 28 days I will be cheering myself on as I consume a plant-based diet and re-live my middle school dancing queen glory days (#sansalcohol).

(3) Good for the Soul: Read the bible. Apply it to my life. Every damn day.

And that’s it! I know it’s not particularly ground-breaking or innovative but I love using new months, weeks, and even days as opportunities to reset and restart. This March is no exception and I’m so excited. If you’ve got a goal or two that you’re willing to share, I wanna hear it! Leave it in a comment below so I can root for you as we both move through March.

All love always xx

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5 Things We Should All Leave in 2017

It wouldn't be a new year without goal-setting and a fresh list of intentions.

I know because I jump at every opportunity to start over. I'm the girl that gets a new phone and doesn't transfer any of her old photos. If you get me, you get me. 

This year though I decided to do things a little bit differently, and instead of writing my intentions first (which I eventually did.. pictured below) I actually made a list of things and habits I needed to cut out of my life. 

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At first it felt like a really negative thing to do, like spreading negative energy or something. But it's IMPORTANT because sometimes the things we carry with us year-after-year are the very things that hold us back from the goals we keep setting. So here I go sharing 5 things we should all  leave in 2017... because if it doesn't add to our lives, it will only subtract.
 

1. THE COMPARISON GAME

Comparison is the thief of joy... Theodore Roosevelt wasn't lying. That's why in 2018 the first thing I'm getting rid of is my tendency to compare. It's a hard thing, knowing that all of your life all you've done is value yourself in relation to others. I've wanted to be smarter, funnier, more athletic, more well-rounded, thicker, and then thinner (lol at standards of beauty, f that)... and joining the Instagram and blogging communities didn't exactly help quiet that voice in my head. But here's one thing I know: comparing will do nothing good for you. So let's stop doing it, and replace all of that negative stuff with a desire to just be better than yesterday.
 

2. SELF-DOUBT & THE FEAR OF TRYING

This kind of defined my 2017. I was preparing to take the MCAT with a relatively low-GPA (#premedprobs), I wanted to start a blog but I didn't think anyone would read it, and I was scared if I did start a blog that people would judge me. But guess what? I took the MCAT, started this blog, and received nothing but support from the realest friends a girl could ask for. Moral of the story here: Go after everything your heart desires because YOU CAN.
 

3. PROCRASTINATION & OTHER WAITING GAMES

I'm guilty of putting EVERYTHING off, small or big, whether it'd take 5 minutes or 5 hours. So this year I'm saying no to putting off the stuff that I really have no excuse for procrastinating. If it takes less than 30 minutes to do, or if you'll be drastically happier when it's over, DO. IT. NOW.
 

4. SAYING NEGATIVE THINGS ABOUT OTHER WOMEN

This one's self-explanatory so I'll keep it short and sweet. Few things make me sadder than women putting down other women. I'm as guilty as the next girl so in 2018 I'm making a point to cut it out. Whether she wears make-up or not, whether she's loud or soft-spoken, whether she commands a room or prefers to mingle in the middle... let. that. girl. live. And the next time anyone tries to compliment you by saying you're not like other girls, punch them in the mouth* for saying something so sexist. #womenempoweringwomen

*don't actually punch them.
 

5. THE "I CAN DO IT ALL" SUPERWOMAN COMPLEX

You don't have to be everything to everyone, but to serve others you do have to take care of yourself. Know when to say no, when to say yes, and when you've got nothing left to give. It's hard enough trying to be better for yourself and I'm guilt of constantly trying to be better for everyone else too. Respecting your limits does not make you weak, and self-care does not make you selfish. Remember that.
 

I hope you'll join me in getting rid of the things that hold you  back. We can, and we will.
 

All love always,
Mez

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2017: A Year in Review

Happy New Year my people! 

With the first day of 2018 well underway I thought it’d be nice to look back at all that was great about 2017. It was a year full of its own trials and tribulations, but every year has them so I hope this encourages you to look back at your own to try to find the incredibly beautiful bits for yourself. Sometimes they're just too easy to overlook.

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JANUARY

I participated in the Boston Women's March and skied for the first time ever. Can I ski well? No.

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FEBRUARY

was filled with friendship, drugstore highlighter (literally my favorite), and so many smiles. I visited my BFFL at Lehigh after not seeing her for 2 years, made some of my best friends at Harvard (shout-out to T and L), and did A LOT of yoga.

MARCH

... the glorious month I decided to take 2 years off before medical school. I postponed my MCAT and still have NO RAGRETS.

APRIL

I walked/performed in two incredible, student-run charity fashion shows. NOT my comfort zone.

Identities Fashion Show 2017

Identities Fashion Show 2017

MAY

On the 25th of May, 2017, I got that Harvard degree. It's crazy to me how quickly the four years flew, but what really shakes me to my core is that I did exactly what 6 or 7 year old me set out to do. "When I grow up I'm going to Harvard." The thought gives me chills.. and it wouldn't have been possible without my people. We really did it.  #firstgen

Was I hype? or was I HYPE?

Was I hype? or was I HYPE?

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JUNE

I started studying for the MCAT and I turned 22. HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!  

This was also the month I decided I would start a blog (eventually) so I bought the domain name for Mez On The Move.

JULY

I continued to study for the MCAT but roped my sister into getting some studying done too.

This was a difficult month (it was hard to see how much she was struggling) but it was incredible to have a study buddy as intelligent and energetic as her.

Let's just say the MCAT blues were no match for little J.

Late-August, working through test strategies pool-side, with my  MCAT 528 .

Late-August, working through test strategies pool-side, with my MCAT 528.

AUGUST

To say I was feeling stressed in August would be an understatement. With my September test-date approaching I was a BALL OF STRESS- a literal BALL OF ANXIETY AND STRESS.

That's why when #7 asked if I wanted to take my studying to Jamaica with him I did not hesitate. Don't worry... about a thing... 'cus every little thing... is gonna be alright.

 

SEPTEMBER

I took the MCAT on September 9th and while it left me feeling defeated, it was OVER.. and that was kind of nice. I chilled for the rest of the month and tried not to think about it.

A screenshot of my MCAT celebration.

A screenshot of my MCAT celebration.

OCTOBER

After checking the AAMC site three times I found out I would never have to study for the MCAT again. OH HAPPY DAY.

NOVEMBER

Now that the MCAT was completely over I had time to really jump into my newfound creative passion: blogging! I started working on what has now become this tiny blip on the WorldWideWeb, I took my sister to her first football game, I brought yoga back into my life, and I bought my first denim jacket. VERY exciting stuff.

DECEMBER

I launched this blog on the 19th (only 13 short days ago), I met Instagram friends IRL, and I started to feel really freaking happy about my decision to start sharing.. and blogging... and focusing on happy living and wellness.

2017 had its tough moments, but it was filled with so much joy and brought me a new passion and sense of purpose. I love to create but what I love to do more is connect... and this past year the universe set me up to do just that. I cannot wait for what 2018 will bring. This space has hands-down been the best thing to come out of 2017 and for you I will be forever grateful. All love always, xx

 

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Saturday Football

Hey hustlers! Nothing screams Fall like fallen leaves and football. This past weekend my mom and youngest sister joined me for Harvard's game against Columbia. Fun fact: it was my mom's first football game ever! More than once she yelled HOME RUN after a touchdown but her team spirit was unmatched and Jenny was just happy to be repping her 'Harvard Sister' swag.

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The weather was also unbelievably perfect. Even though there wasn't enough sun to bronze up my borderline-translucent skin, spending some time outdoors was just what I needed. AND PRETZELS. I believe food needs no explanation but mediocre pretzels actually bring me so much freakin' joy. The concession stand is, and always will be, my favorite part of any athletic event. 

>> when you get your food

>> when you get your food

>> when a friend who "wasn't hungry" asks for a bite

>> when a friend who "wasn't hungry" asks for a bite

I didn't spend the day "working toward my goals" or "making every day count" in the way those words are usually used, but I did spend the day doing something I enjoy with the people I love. The perfect RESET for this female hustler, honestly. 

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I hope you enjoyed a restful weekend or managed to find a little beauty in your busy one. #7 says, "Thanks for reading!" xx

*Oh. And we won. #GoCrimson