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New Year’s Resolutions Every 20-Something Should Make

We are just 12 short hours from a new year which means many of us are busy reflecting on the past one and setting our sights higher for the next. Whether you set “resolutions” or “intentions” or decide to focus on a single word in 2019, I have always been of the opinion that every new day, week, month, and year are all opportunities to just be better. Not better than anyone else, but better than you were before. And YES. It is 100% possible to love yourself while you work on yourself.

I’ve got all kinds of goals for this year but 4 resolutions have been on my mind. I think they’re the kind that every 20-something #femalehustler should consider, so I thought I’d share them with you in hopes that you might join me in making one or two (or all!) of them your own.

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1. SPEND TIME OUTSIDE, EVERY DAY.

It feels like everyone is making a dream career out of their side hustles and I couldn’t be more excited. I joined the ranks of the “self-employed” myself just two months ago, but the loss of my 30-minute commute to work has drastically reduced the amount of time I spend in the crisp NYC air. Important: fresh air is good for the soul. So in 2019 I’m making the extra effort to spend a few minutes roaming the concrete jungle everyday. If you work from home, Uber everywhere, or lock yourself in the library for hours on end, you should definitely consider joining me on my quest to become #outdoorsy (ha).

2. EAT MORE PLANTS.

Whether you do it for the environment, the animals, or your health, there’s a lot to be gained from a plant-based diet. I won’t scare you with the v* word, but there’s a 30% chance you need to increase your veggie intake. I’ve been trying to keep meat, dairy, and eggs out of my kitchen for a few months. It’s not full-blown veganism* but it’s easy and affordable. So in 2019 I’m keeping my #plantkitchen habit around and this invitation for you to join me will really kick it up a notch.

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3. INCREASE YOUR FINANCIAL LITERACY.

Finances - the bane of every 20-something-New Yorker’s existence. I grew up in a home that experienced a lot of financial instability. Pair that with the fact that I’m a rich person stuck in a poor person’s body, and I’ve managed to develop some pretty bad spending habits.

THAT’S WHY IN 2019, I’M STACKING MY PAPER.

I’m talking budgets, bank statements, savings accounts, and personal finance books… while I continue to live my best life.

First few books in the queue? You Are A Badass at Making Money, Refinery29’s Money Diaries, and Money Is Everything.

4. GET INVOLVED.

Join your neighborhood council. Go to your community meetings. Volunteer at a soup kitchen. Speak up for your co-worker. Speak out about injustice. Help your aunt’s friend’s sister’s daughter ace the SAT. Be a mentor.

Your 20s are supposed to be selfish years, but that doesn’t mean every moment of them has to be. In 2019, I’ll be actively searching for ways to pay everything I’ve been given forward. Join me.


All love always xx


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5 Things We Should All Leave in 2017

It wouldn't be a new year without goal-setting and a fresh list of intentions.

I know because I jump at every opportunity to start over. I'm the girl that gets a new phone and doesn't transfer any of her old photos. If you get me, you get me. 

This year though I decided to do things a little bit differently, and instead of writing my intentions first (which I eventually did.. pictured below) I actually made a list of things and habits I needed to cut out of my life. 

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At first it felt like a really negative thing to do, like spreading negative energy or something. But it's IMPORTANT because sometimes the things we carry with us year-after-year are the very things that hold us back from the goals we keep setting. So here I go sharing 5 things we should all  leave in 2017... because if it doesn't add to our lives, it will only subtract.
 

1. THE COMPARISON GAME

Comparison is the thief of joy... Theodore Roosevelt wasn't lying. That's why in 2018 the first thing I'm getting rid of is my tendency to compare. It's a hard thing, knowing that all of your life all you've done is value yourself in relation to others. I've wanted to be smarter, funnier, more athletic, more well-rounded, thicker, and then thinner (lol at standards of beauty, f that)... and joining the Instagram and blogging communities didn't exactly help quiet that voice in my head. But here's one thing I know: comparing will do nothing good for you. So let's stop doing it, and replace all of that negative stuff with a desire to just be better than yesterday.
 

2. SELF-DOUBT & THE FEAR OF TRYING

This kind of defined my 2017. I was preparing to take the MCAT with a relatively low-GPA (#premedprobs), I wanted to start a blog but I didn't think anyone would read it, and I was scared if I did start a blog that people would judge me. But guess what? I took the MCAT, started this blog, and received nothing but support from the realest friends a girl could ask for. Moral of the story here: Go after everything your heart desires because YOU CAN.
 

3. PROCRASTINATION & OTHER WAITING GAMES

I'm guilty of putting EVERYTHING off, small or big, whether it'd take 5 minutes or 5 hours. So this year I'm saying no to putting off the stuff that I really have no excuse for procrastinating. If it takes less than 30 minutes to do, or if you'll be drastically happier when it's over, DO. IT. NOW.
 

4. SAYING NEGATIVE THINGS ABOUT OTHER WOMEN

This one's self-explanatory so I'll keep it short and sweet. Few things make me sadder than women putting down other women. I'm as guilty as the next girl so in 2018 I'm making a point to cut it out. Whether she wears make-up or not, whether she's loud or soft-spoken, whether she commands a room or prefers to mingle in the middle... let. that. girl. live. And the next time anyone tries to compliment you by saying you're not like other girls, punch them in the mouth* for saying something so sexist. #womenempoweringwomen

*don't actually punch them.
 

5. THE "I CAN DO IT ALL" SUPERWOMAN COMPLEX

You don't have to be everything to everyone, but to serve others you do have to take care of yourself. Know when to say no, when to say yes, and when you've got nothing left to give. It's hard enough trying to be better for yourself and I'm guilt of constantly trying to be better for everyone else too. Respecting your limits does not make you weak, and self-care does not make you selfish. Remember that.
 

I hope you'll join me in getting rid of the things that hold you  back. We can, and we will.
 

All love always,
Mez

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